Episode 98

The Challenges of Trusting Your Intuition – BDay Fun Day 4

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Trusting your intuition can feel like one of the hardest things to do. Even when you’ve done the work, even when you know the signs, there can still be moments of doubt. Moments where you wonder, Is this real? Am I just making this up? Should I actually follow that feeling?

I’ve worked with my intuition for a long time, and yes, I do trust it. But that doesn’t mean I always get it right. And I share that openly because I want you to feel safe enough to explore. To play. To learn. And most of all, to have compassion for yourself. Because not every decision is going to be perfect, and that’s okay.

So how does it actually show up when you’re not trusting your intuition? These are some of the ways I’ve experienced, and seen, this play out.

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Putting Others on a Pedestal

This one was big for me. When I worked with coaches or mentors, I put them on a pedestal. I thought they knew everything. I assumed that whatever advice they gave me was exactly what I needed to follow, no matter how it landed in my body.

But not every piece of advice is right for your business, because only you know what’s truly right. Even if someone’s advice is well-intentioned, even if they’re gifted at what they do, they don’t know your inner landscape. They don’t know your history, your energy, or your nervous system. They know your business from the outside.

The shift happened when I started tuning in, asking myself what my intuition, my body, and my business were trying to say. That’s when things began to unfold differently. My business didn’t take off quickly, but it began to grow in a way that supported me. In a way that allowed me to keep going. And that’s what mattered.

Taking the Courses, but Not the Actions

Another way I’ve seen this show up is when you take course after course, workshop after workshop, retreat after retreat, but you don’t take the action afterwards.

You learn all these amazing things. You connect with your intuitive gifts. You feel that magic in the moment. But then you return home and… nothing changes. You don’t continue practising. You don’t use what you’ve learned. And your intuition begins to quiet, because you’re not giving it space to grow.

Trusting your intuition means doing something with it. You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to show up for it. To build the relationship. To let it speak and respond.

Dismissing the Intuitive Signs

Your intuition doesn’t just speak in one way. It comes through many forms. And if you’re not trusting it, you might be dismissing it without even realising.

Your intuition can come through:

  • A conversation that stays with you long after it’s over
  • A phrase in a book, a moment in a show, or something a friend says that just lands differently
  • Pulling a card or hearing a message in a meditation that stirs something inside
  • A feeling that arises in nature, or when you’re simply sitting in stillness

Sometimes, your intuition comes through someone else entirely, like me, right now, speaking these words. But when you ignore the nudge and go back to the guidebook, or override the message because it doesn’t make logical sense, you’re saying to your intuition, I don’t trust you yet.

That doesn’t make you wrong. It just means there’s more space for building that trust.

Questioning Every Single Thing

You read a business book, and you question every line. You hear advice from a coach or mentor, and you doubt it immediately. You hear your intuition speak, and then you ask yourself a dozen follow-up questions, spinning in circles until the original message gets lost.

When you don’t trust your intuition, this kind of mental spiralling becomes the default. It’s exhausting. And it erodes the inner clarity that intuition is trying to offer.

You may think you’re being discerning, but often, this is fear in disguise. It’s the fear of being wrong. The fear of repeating a mistake. And underneath that is the belief that it’s not safe to trust yourself.

Disowning the Beliefs That Arise

Sometimes when we’re doing the work, writing a letter to our intuition, sitting in stillness, reflecting, something comes through. A belief. A sentence. A knowing. And we immediately dismiss it.

We say, That’s not right. That can’t be true. That’s not my belief.

But if it came through, it is your belief. Even if it’s not one you’re proud of. Even if it’s something you’ve been trying to avoid. The moment it lands, it’s revealing something real.

It might be a belief like, It’s unsafe to trust my intuition. That’s confronting. But if it’s present, it’s asking to be witnessed. To be held. To be gently explored, not shoved aside.

It’s Okay That Trust Takes Time

Most of us were taught not to trust our intuition. We were taught to prioritise logic. To listen to others. To seek validation outside ourselves. And for many women especially, we were taught not to trust our own bodies.

So if trust doesn’t come easily, it’s not your fault. It’s a practice. A process. A relationship you get to build over time.

The good news is you can learn to trust your intuition. One nudge at a time. One decision at a time. One conversation with your body, your business, and your energy at a time.

Final Reflections

You don’t need to be perfect at this. You don’t need to have it all figured out. But you do get to start listening again. You get to take small actions. To honour the messages. To play, explore, and come back when you’ve drifted.

Because your intuition is always speaking. And when you begin to trust it, everything changes.

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