Episode 96

Trusting My Intuition Even When It’s Wrong – Bday Fun Day 2

This question has come up more than once, and it’s one I’ve had to sit with myself, many times. What do we do when we think our intuition has led us down the wrong path? What happens when we’ve followed a feeling, made a decision, and things didn’t go the way we hoped?

I want to say this first: it happens. It’s happened to me. And I’ll never claim that my intuition is always right. Because I’m a human being. I live a full life. I make decisions while navigating emotions, thoughts, energy, and sometimes stress. So yes, there are moments when I’ve followed my intuition and things haven’t worked out the way I expected.

That doesn’t mean intuition failed. It just means I wasn’t fully grounded when I received it. I wasn’t present in my body. Or I didn’t listen clearly enough. And that’s where the repair begins.

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What I Do When It Happens

When I feel like my intuition has led me the wrong way, the first thing I do is stop. I don’t push forward. I don’t scramble to fix it. I stop completely.

I take a few deep breaths. I close my eyes. That helps shut down the overstimulated physical senses and gives space for my spiritual senses to open. Then, I connect with my intuition. I speak to it. I ask for forgiveness, not because it did something wrong, but because I didn’t listen clearly enough.

I might say, I’m sorry I didn’t hear you fully. I’m sorry I wasn’t grounded enough to receive what you were trying to tell me. That’s the truth of it. If the decision didn’t feel aligned in the end, chances are I wasn’t fully tuned in when I made it.

I Ask Why. But I Don’t Overthink

Once I’ve paused and softened, I sit with the question: Why did this happen? Not in a blaming way, not in a mental spiral, but in gentle curiosity.

My mind might try to take over, that’s natural. But I thank it and ask it to rest for a moment. Then I ask my intuition, What was going on beneath the surface? What belief or pattern might have influenced this?

Sometimes, an old memory comes up. I was raised in a beautiful faith tradition, one that I still deeply respect. But in that space, I was taught not to trust my body. Not to trust myself. That if I wanted to connect spiritually, I needed to go through someone else, a minister, a guide. And in moments of self-doubt, that belief still echoes: You don’t have the answers. You need to look outside yourself.

Recognising that belief helps me understand why I might’ve overridden my inner voice.

Listening to the Body for Deeper Clues

Because I’ve done so much work on connecting with my body, I often receive messages somatically, through sensations, tension, or subtle shifts. I might notice a heaviness in my left shoulder, and because I’ve studied medical intuition, I know that for me, the left is about the feminine. It’s about receiving.

From there, I ask questions:

  • What am I feeling in that part of my body right now?
  • What energy or belief is held there that might’ve influenced my decision?
  • What does that sensation want to show me?

I follow the thread. I don’t try to force answers, I just keep asking, keep noticing. Sometimes I’ll visualise a colour or shape. Sometimes I’ll hold a crystal or a sacred object, like the Merkabah I received from my teacher, and ask it to reflect what I need to learn.

Writing a Letter to My Intuition

One of the most powerful tools I’ve used is writing a letter to my intuition. I don’t plan it. I don’t overthink it. I simply start: Dear Intuition… and then let the words come.

I write whatever I’m feeling, even if it’s frustration or sadness. I ask, Why did I make that decision? What was going on in me that blocked the clarity? And I let it flow.

If my mind starts judging, I remind it gently: Not now. Let the truth come first. Sometimes, I even use my non-dominant hand to bypass the mental filters. That small shift can open the door to insights I wouldn’t access otherwise.

Compassion Is Essential

More than anything, I bring compassion. I don’t blame myself for getting it wrong. I don’t make it mean I can’t trust myself. I treat myself the way I would treat someone I love, gently, kindly, with space to learn.

Compassion has been one of the most powerful ingredients in rebuilding trust with my intuition. When I hold myself through the hard moments, I strengthen that connection instead of severing it.

I also give myself time. I might go for a walk, read a book, or do something that grounds me in my body and brings in spaciousness. Because sometimes, the answers don’t come right away. But they do come, when I create the space to receive them.

Final Reflections

If your intuition feels like it’s led you the wrong way, you haven’t failed. You’re not broken. You’re still learning how to listen, how to trust, how to stay present in your body while receiving something that doesn’t always come with proof.

This is a practice. A sacred, imperfect, evolving practice. And it’s one you’re allowed to return to again and again.


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