Episode 153

Overcoming Overthinking & Trusting Your Intuition – BDay Fun Day 11

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This conversation is one I’ve been wanting to bring forward, because it touches something I’ve had to deeply unlearn in my own journey. How to stop overthinking and start trusting my intuition again.

Overthinking was something I mastered in my past career. It was necessary in those environments, when you’re on the front line, when emergencies are part of your day, being overly prepared can feel like safety. But in business, especially in soul-led work, overthinking often gets in the way. It blocks the wisdom trying to come through.

In this piece, I explore how to acknowledge overthinking without fighting it, how to use the yes/no body scan to connect with your intuition, and how strengthening self-trust helps you stop outsourcing your decisions.

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Stop Fighting the Overthinking

Overthinking gets louder when we fight it. The more you push it away, the more it grips tighter. That’s because pushing is resistance, and resistance fuels mental noise.

I’ve found that when I pause, soften, and say, “Okay, these thoughts are here,” something begins to shift. Instead of spiralling, I write them down. I let my inner critic speak on the page. And when I see those thoughts written out, they start to lose their grip.

Running a business can bring up a lot. It’s exhilarating, but it can also be confronting. You will have thoughts. That’s normal. The power lies in how you meet them.

  • Acknowledge the thoughts without judgment.
  • Allow them to come up and move through you.
  • Challenge them if they’re looping or heavy. Ask: “Is this actually true?”
  • Try reframing. “What if the opposite were true?” opens new perspectives.

Overthinking usually comes from trying to control something. But clarity doesn’t come from control, it comes from space.

Tune into the Wisdom of Your Body

One of my favourite ways to access intuition is with a simple yes/no body scan. Think of a decision you need to make. Close your eyes. Say “yes” to the decision, and notice how your body responds. Then say “no,” and observe again.

You might feel sensations like lightness, tightness, openness, or contraction. The more you practice, the more clearly your intuition will speak.

I’ve used this so many times, especially when others are offering a lot of opinions. One example came up in a group recently where a woman said she had this idea but was unsure whether it would work. Everyone chimed in with advice, and I asked her to check in with her own intuition. She said, “My intuition says yes and no.” But that’s not your intuition, that’s your thoughts.

Your intuition doesn’t wobble. It’s clear. It might say “yes, but not right now,” or “yes, but in a different way,” but it won’t say yes and no at once. That’s your mental chatter taking over.

For me, intuition feels like this:

  • It’s light, flowing, and aligned.
  • It’s instant, there’s no delay or second-guessing.
  • It moves through the body with clarity, not pressure.

And when I feel fear instead of intuition, I know it because the sensation is totally different. It feels tense. It feels urgent or heavy. It comes with overanalysis and stories. That’s how I know it’s not my inner knowing, it’s my survival programming.

Strengthen Self-Trust by Practicing It

Self-trust isn’t something you have or don’t have, it’s something you build. And you build it through small, consistent choices where you listen inward and act from there.

If you keep outsourcing decisions, asking your coach, your friends, the algorithm, you reinforce the belief that someone else knows better. And the longer you do that, the further you drift from your own compass.

Repetition is what grows confidence. When you practice listening to your intuition regularly, it becomes easier to hear, and easier to trust.

This has been a big lesson for me. I was taught to believe others had the answers. I learned to defer, to seek validation, to avoid uncertainty. But in business, you have to become the one who knows. Not because you have all the answers, but because you’re willing to be in the unknown and listen anyway.

You don’t need to know every step. Intuition works moment by moment. It’s not a full map, it’s a quiet whisper that says, “Start here.”

Final Reflections

You don’t have to eliminate overthinking completely. But you can create space between the thought and the action. You can learn to pause, listen, and then move, not from fear, but from truth.

When you stop outsourcing your knowing and start trusting your inner rhythm, things shift. The fog clears. The second-guessing softens. And your path unfolds, one aligned step at a time.

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